I’ve never made anyone angry by saying “no”. I’m not going to do something I don’t know how to do, and/or have no interest in learning how to do, for myself, let alone for someone else.
So, they don’t care about the photographs taken on their big day. Lots of people don’t, and are perfectly happy with some snaps and a few cell shots that their friends and family take. To us it seems silly, and makes us gasp, but, seriously… There really are people out there that don’t care. I don’t think it’s always a matter of being cheap, or trying to save money, but even if it IS a matter of money, or lack there of, do you really want you or your photography associated with this? Especially when you don’t even have an interest in it?
as far as showing mercy… I have a hard time with that one. Its just too silly to think “they were forced” to pretend to be something they aren’t, and have been made to do something they didn’t want to do, when it’s so very easy to say no, and explain why. Much easier than trying to shoot, edit, and print a wedding without having a clue, and without any decent compensation. No, it’s done for the praise or whatever these fauxs are getting off on. If its not then why do they say yes, and then post those shots proudly For everyone to see? Sometimes they will even announce “I’m no longer shooting weddings” or “I don’t shoot weddings”, but they have albums of wedding shots in their portfolios. They want people to ask, there’s no other explanation.